I am so excited to share these posts. Ever since I found out I was pregnant, I’ve been dying to tell nearly everyone I know. And now I can finally share with y’all what’s been going on for the last few months! As I was writing this recap, it became very long so I’m going to break this up in to two posts. Here’s part one- talking getting pregnant, telling Adrian, and the first doctor’s appointment.
At the risk of oversharing, I’m going to take y’all way back and tell you a bit about our actual path to getting pregnant. I am someone who has always had very irregular cycles when they weren’t being regulated by birth control. When I was young, I always assumed it was due to a relatively low body fat percentage, stress, life changes, etc. It never bothered me and I never really talked to a doctor about it. After going off birth control in April of 2018 after a number of years on the pill, my period was not coming in regularly. At first, I wasn’t too worried and just thought my body needed some time to regulate itself. However, after a number of months and with the plans of having kids getting closer, I started to have some concern. I went to my OB/GYN in November and she shared that she thought I likely have PCOS. Blood tests didn’t solidly confirm this theory but did indicate levels that COULD be associated with PCOS. She offered to prescribe me some pills that would help by body ovulate on a more predictable cycle but she made the side effects sound so terrible that I decided to wait and just keep doing things on our own. I purchased ovulation tests from Amazon and would take these every so often to see if I could catch my body ovulating. While we knew we wanted to get pregnant soonish, we also weren’t on any sort of timeline.
In February I randomly decided I was going to start taking ovulation tests this cycle. At this point, I was already beyond when someone on a normal cycle should have ovulated. I took a couple days of tests and low and behold I got a positive one! I was honestly just excited that my body was ovulating on its own. There was no part of me that thought we would actually get pregnant this cycle. But I marked the test down in my Ovia app and ~10 days later when the app told me to take a pregnancy test, I did. To my ultimate shock, it was positive! I immediately took at least two more (also positive) and told myself that I would go to CVS that day to buy an even more “substantial” test to take the next day. Staying focused at work that day was incredibly difficult. My brain was consumed with thinking about being pregnant, how I was going to tell Adrian, and how in the world I was going to keep this a secret for another ~8-9 weeks.
I thought seriously about buying a cute baby outfit or shoes or something else but the idea of waiting two days for something to arrive via Amazon was far too daunting. Ultimately, I ended up just showing him the tests (when he had no idea what they were at first) when he got home. He was stunned and it was so fun to watch him process the news that he was going to be a dad. Once he processed for a bit, he said “I feel like I need to tell someone. I just need to say it out loud.” I asked who he wanted to tell and he said “I guess I want to call my mom.” I laughed and thought this was adorable, so we decided to call his parents and mine and tell them the news that night. They were all over the moon and couldn’t wait to hear more details once we had them in a few weeks.
The First Doctor’s Appointment
It’s funny even after taking four or five different pregnancy tests (yes, I’m insane) I still felt like I needed a doctor to confirm the news. I wasn’t sure the doctor would even see me this early as I’d heard they want to wait until you’re ~6-8 weeks along but I called anyway and set up an appointment for the following week. Well turns out the doctor confirms pregnancy the same way we do with an at home test… but at least now I had a medical professional confirming the happy news as well. Since I had irregular cycles, they weren’t able to confirm how far along I was and at the time I could have been anywhere between 5-7 weeks. Because of the positive ovulation test I was fairly certain that I was around 5 weeks at the time. I has a quick exam, got an opportunity to ask some questions, and got some blood work done to check hormone levels and I was on my way. I was glad to have had the opportunity to speak with the doctor (or her PA technically) and was already looking forward to my next appointment which would be an ultrasound.
I’ll pause the story there. Next post I’ll talk symptoms, the first ultrasound, and just how freaking hard this secret has been to keep. I’m a fairly open book with my experiences so if you have any questions please don’t hesitate to reach out. I think sharing our experiences makes us all feel just a little bit more “normal”.